When we first started to work on baby C&C eons ago we naively thought it was going to be sexy-fest with lots of fireworks. That sexy-fest died out quickly as did the candles when we realized something was wrong. I mean it’s not rocket science right? Place object A in object B and bada bing bada boom a baby arrives 9 months later. Well, once you add in a shit load of doctors and needles there’s a lot of objects A going into object B and the romance leaves faster than air leaving a deflating balloon. Point is, you are a couple and even though your life is surrounded by cycles, timed intercourse, doctors, agencies, waiting and classes you have to still be a couple and enjoy each other. Sounds impossible right? Not entirely.
We do a lot of writing here in the C&C household. Our blog is where we share our personal story and some of the things we learn throughout our journey to parenthood. This blog is our passion but from time to time we guest blog, and write for other sites like Huffington Post, Fertility Authority, and Adoption.net. I wanted to share a snippet from an article we wrote for the Huffington Post on “Six Tips to Rekindle your Romance While Trying to Conceive.” Guess what happens at the end of this week? Duh, I know Friday. It will also be Valentine’s Day. So here are some ways you can spice things up even if your bedroom is under the microscope.
Be the Messenger– Simple gestures to make your partner know that they are desired and that you love them is easy to do and takes no time at all to do. Try writing a sexy message on the bathroom mirror in red lipstick before they get up to go to work. I have from time to time wrapped a note around a candy bar and tied in a saying like: We are “mint” to be together or tonight your may “Skor” (named after the candy bar).
Go off the Grid– Get out of dodge and go on a vacation. Yes, your bank account maybe filled will dust bunnies and IOU’s from your fertility/family building misadventures but you need to take a recharger and be a couple again. If you are on a budget, go camping, s’mores and one sleeping bag to cuddle up and share included.
Date Nights –Remember these? No? Well, just because your family building doesn’t mean that these need to go the way of the dodo bird. This is what made you a couple; dates and doing things you enjoy together. Game nights, Red Box/movie rentals, night in at the movies, splurge and go out to eat or you can even go park somewhere and make out like teenagers. Whatever you do, setting aside time to enjoy each other will help revitalize what it was that gave you those characteristic butterflies from the very first kiss.
Sexy Photo Shoot– The whole process of trying to conceive from the upside down handstands after intercourse to many deposits made in a clear cup for sampling has a way of making both partners feel unsexy and undesirable. How about some spontaneity? The latest photography trend on the scene is Boudoir and Pin-up pictures. Not only will you feel sexy again but I am pretty sure your partner will not suspect you will do this. Let’s face it the “male deposit” reading material in the fertility clinics are outdated and have been around the clinic block. You will be providing your own personal material for their plastic cup enjoyment.
Unplug– What is this you say? No computer, no smart phone, and no TV. Now before you start getting the nervous shakes and your right eye starts to twitch, remember that we are running at 100 miles an hour. Most people have forgotten the lost art of a conversation and instead txt msg 2 talk lol. We simply get lost in the rat race of the day to day. Read a book together a real one. Relax, I am pretty sure with all the electronic overload removed for a day you both with find other ways to entertain yourselves (wink wink).
Communicate– When was the last time you just talked? Not about your next doctor’s appointment or when you are ovulating again but had a conversation about each other and what is going on in your partner’s life outside of infertility. Believe it or not this is the root for why most couples fall out of love. They forgot how to talk to each other as if it was your first date. You will be surprised that even after years of being together you will discover something new about each other.
Oh, and for those who have followed us for some time now. You know our annual Valentine’s Day chopped competition will be commencing. For the last 2 years now instead of going out to eat and waiting countless hours for overpriced food, we do a friendly competition. I buy Chris’s mystery bag. He buys mine. We set the timer and have to prepare a meal using the mystery ingredients that the other person has very devilishly picked out for each other. This will happen for the 3rd time on Sunday and the record stand (Candace: 1, Chris: 0, Tie: 1). If you follow us on Our Misconception Facebook page you will get to see a play by play on me kicking Chris’s butt Julia Childs style. Mauh hahah….
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