So, what are you doing tonight (5/11)?
If you had the chance to check out our MTV True Life documentary “I’m Desperate to Have a Baby” that aired in 2013, they left off with our unfinished story. Here is the link:
For those who want to know more about our surrogacy journey and everything that has happened since our MTV Truelife documentary, tonight we will be featured in a Check-ins and Check-ups update show. MTV wanted to learn about how our surrogacy went, how our lives have changed, and how our family was doing.
We were excited to get to share our story and provide hope for folks that are still in the throes of family building. By showing a glimpse into the world of infertility, it helps others understand that for some couples it is simply not that easy to start a family.
“Just relax and it will happen” is not a cure for this disease that affects 1 in 8 couples. Adoption is more expensive than IVF and IVF is not always an option for some infertility diagnosis.
The MTV folks were amazing, as usual, and we get to tell them (and eventually all of you) about how much our wonder-surro blessed us and changed our lives. Now, we need to warn you, the update show should air late. Not college student late, but late according to all the Generation X’ers by now. Check your local listing or MTV online , or set your DVR and get ready to see another example of MTV’s True Life capturing the ups and downs of the stroller-coaster of infertility.
For those who do not have access to MTV here is the link to the update show if you want to check it out!
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I just watched your True Life episode and then the update show – what an amazing story! It was so wonderful to see how happy you guys are in the update show – happiness was just beaming off of both of you. Watching your story gives me hope that my happy ending is coming too – this journey has been long and hard, but I am not giving up on our dream!
I remember you from True Life and was excited to see your update on this week’s follow up. I cried watching your original episode and cried again seeing your update. Congratulations, your daughter is beautiful!
Congrats, you two!
Your story on True Life touched me so much; my heart ached for you. I wasn’t able to have children due to having ovarian cancer (& the accompanying multiple surgeries, chemo, etc) at age 19. Thankfully, I made it through the cancer, and at age 43 I happily mother my nephews since I will never have children. It was devastating and sent me reeling into depression for a long time, but once I came to terms with it, I focused on the positives and now I channel that love into others.
I know you guys have taken some hits for multiple IVF rounds and surrogacy instead of adoption, but it’s so easy for others to judge from what they perceive to be some moral high ground.
The truth is, there is no high-ground. Adoption is a choice not to be made lightly, and while I know you were pursuing that option too, how could you say “no” when an opportunity to make your parenting dream come true presented itself? Should you pass it up simply to meet society’s approval on what’s the right road to take toward parenthood? That’s an obvious “no”!
The emotional roller coaster of infertility is a hellish ride. You don’t need to justify or explain to anyone why you chose surrogacy over adoption, and making one choice over the other doesn’t mean you’re selfish or don’t care about children waiting to find homes. It’s not a “one or the other” situation.
If it’s selfish for a couple dealing with infertility to not choose adoption,then it must be selfish for couples who can conceive to not choose adoption. What’s the difference? They also made a choice to have their own biological child rather than adopt, so what makes them superior? There is a level of hypocrisy that is astounding to me!
Anyway, I didn’t mean to ramble. I just hate to see you taking this for making a choice that so personal and shouldn’t be subject to criticism.
Congratulations on your daughter; you seem like a lovely couple, and I’m sure you are wonderful parents. 🙂