All About Us - Our Misconception- A blog on Infertility, Surrogacy and beyond

Our first MISCONCEPTION: Boy meets girl, they fall head over heels, they get married, and: white picket fences, 1.6 children, lavish international vacations … tires screech, records scratch, everything stops … REALITY comes into focus. Our honeymoon was toes in the sand and drinks with umbrellas on the beach. Eight years of marriage have been more like an extended honeymoon minus the whole work thing. What’s missing? Maternity clothes, midnight diaper runs, toys on the floor (except for Chris’s of course), you know, that kind of stuff.

We have been trying to conceive for the past 6 years. Believe us, we have tried almost everything. Tips we hear regularly: heard them, tried them, ridiculed them, moved on. Yes, we have heard we are trying too hard, heard that it was a great problem to have (a.k.a. you get to have more sex), been asked why we don’t just adopt, and been told that “Well, maybe not everyone is supposed to have kids.” That last one is simply unacceptable. We’ve been introduced to more doctors with more specialties than we thought existed. And we are no stranger to this sort of thing. With Chris’s two brain surgeries and temporarily sewn shut eye, we thought we‘d seen it all … no pun intended of course. But the brain surgeries had a start and a finish. There was a tangible goal. Infertility, it turns out, is more like trying to fish in The Sahara. You have all the tackle (snicker snicker) and see everyone else catching fish, but all you get is dry clumps of sand. Oh, and add lots of injections to that image. Yeah, something like that.

All that we have learned, we want to share. The learning curve is harsh, going through this we felt alone, truly isolated at times. Misunderstandings and well-intended, equally harmful emphatic comments from family and friends will be all too common. By sharing our stories and misconceptions about infertility from both a guy’s and girl’s perspective, we hope to help other couples on their journey towards parenthood.We will leave you with this: If you have embarked on your infertility journey for enough to find our blog, please believe that you have what it takes to reach your goal! The steps are hard, the tears many, and the costs … unfathomable. But, hopefully, you will –as we have- find ways to smile, laugh, and grow together as a couple. It’s your turn to roll the dice …